Dr. MADISEN HARPER
My top three prioritized values are:
I use them every day to navigate life and make choices.
OK, my real PhD is in clinical hypnotherapy. But I have a gift of seeing into people’s essence and all the potential that comes with it. That’s why my clients appreciate me, because I’m their biggest cheerleader when they don’t believe in themselves.
I also apply the same lens to relationships which means I sometimes fall in love with potential which isn’t anchored in reality – but I’m getting better.
I have a very small immediate family. It’s just my mom and me as my dad passed away in October 2017.
Friends are my extended family. I enjoy intimate, authentic, deep connections and I’ve never been one to have a million acquaintances.
There’s a perception that I’m a ‘party girl’ but the fact is I’m very introverted*. When I come home I just want to hang out with my fur-babies and when I occasionally put the TV on, it rarely gets past a few minutes of what I’ve recorded before I get distracted.
I don’t drink alcohol (I’d rather eat my calories, than drink them), plus I had a stint in advertising in my 20s and think I got it out of my system.
I don’t drink coffee and rarely eat red meat.
People say, “Oh, you’re sooooo healthy!” Not at all, I just don’t have a palette for any of it.
As I said, my idea of an awesome time is catching up with friends. Especially one-on-one.
* There’s a common misconception about the definition of ‘introvert’ and ‘extravert’. Most think introverts are shy and quiet and extraverts are out-going and loud. Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, Ph.D, expresses it accurately, “The introvert gets their energy from within, while the extrovert is charged up by people, places and stimuli outside of them.”
For someone who isn’t keen on wearing a swimsuit I LOVE beach vacations. There is something magical about the water that I really connect with. I’ve been fortunate to visit beautiful locations in Australia, Bahamas, Bali, Cook Islands, Fiji, Greece, Malaysia, Mexico, Morocco, New Zealand, Tahiti, Thailand, United States and Vanuatu.
I’ve often been asked if I’d get married again and people are surprised when I answer with an enthusiastic, “Of course I would!!!”
I love, love, being someone’s wife and letting my man be the man. That often shocks them because they see me as some sort of superwoman but that’s in my purpose-driven work. I adore just hanging out with My Love and I’m quite traditional in many ways. I know the more I love him, the more he flourishes and anchors me so I can truly shine.
I love holding hands, cuddling, connecting mind, body and soul.
And when it’s not, I have to question the lessons in what’s blocking me.
Every morning I program my brain by setting that intention – it’s like being a manifestation magician.
My cat and dogs are my children. The biggest gift they’ve given, and taught me, is unconditional love. Some have passed, but all remain forever imprinted in my heart.
I used to be one of those people who would do two aerobics classes one after the other, walk 10 kms, have a personal trainer. My approach was, all…or nothing. I loved the way it made me feel, but my motivation struggled. Plus, it didn’t help that I was ALWAYS doing it for weight loss.
Now that I’m in my ‘right sized’ body, I’ve fallen in love with Gyrontonic, Pilates reformer, Barre and Yin yoga. So much so that I actually crave it – who would have thought?!!!
– I don’t like baths and prefers showers – what’s the point of sitting in dirty, tepid water?
– I prefer L.A. over San Fran
– I don’t like hot drinks – if I’m really cold I might have a sugar-free hot chocolate – party on!
– Plastic buttons make me feel funny. I can’t stand the touch, or looking at them – I know, it’s weird
But not in the way you may think. When it comes to romantic love, friendships and social commitments I’m incredibly loyal and focused long-term.
It’s when it comes to my diary, I’m usually so over-booked, that I’m reluctant to take on a 10-week course or commit to something too far in advance as I’m never quite sure where I’ll be in my life. Often when it comes to that time I have to change plans because I’ve got work commitments or traveling.
This library aspect follows on from being a commitment-phobe. I love going to the library and borrowing diverse topics. If I don’t love it, then I can move on to the next.
Although I have hundreds of eBooks, I’m still a fan of paperbacks.
The data side of me, I love numbers that tell a story, it stems from my marketing background. Even if I have an awesome idea, I do surveys so I know how I can best be of service.
